6 Ways to Deal with Emotional Suffering

 “Learn to watch your drama unfold while at the same time knowing you are more than your drama.” —Ram Dass Suffering is part of the human condition—especially for those of us living out our dharma in the fast-paced, urban trenches of Los Angeles. Sometimes, when we are highly emotional about something, we say we are … Read more

The Night That Changed Everything: Cancer at 20

“Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible in us be found.” —Pema Chödrön A few weeks ago, I was up in the redwoods outside Santa Cruz in Northern California, leading workshops at a fabulous retreat, Camp Fireheart. One of the other facilitators, Paula Lindquist, led … Read more

The Ins and Outs of Penetration

Men are built to penetrate, not only anatomically, but also emotionally and energetically. Several years ago, I was putting my five-year-old son to bed. We were indulging in the practice of finding creative ways to express our enormous love for each other. I told him I loved him so much my heart was going to explode. … Read more

Worshipping Pussy

It’s not hard to see that the world is out of balance. Old systems and structures are breaking down—both globally and individually—as it feels like we are heading for either annihilation or a rebirth. We have been ensconced in a kind of masculine, rational, linear, problem-solving paradigm for centuries and the disintegration of what no longer … Read more

Getting Back on the Horse: Literally and Metaphorically

We hear from many sources from Ram Dass with his seminal Be Here Now, to Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now about being present in the moment. By now, we are well-versed in the benefits of mindfulness and the awareness of what is right in front of us. We know that living in the past limits our … Read more

Why Sex is Important for Women

Throughout my years of working with women, there is a conversation that I have over and over. The specific details vary, but the bottom line is that an enormous number of women have lost their desire for physical intimacy. We are too tired, too busy, too angry at our partners—at the end of the day, … Read more

Death is Not Good or Bad

It’s been a tough year in the American zeitgeist. We have endured perhaps the most grueling and divisive election cycles in modern history. The experience of which felt very much like the disintegration of the only governing structures we have ever known. 2016 has been disorienting, chaotic, and downright scary at time. Add to this, … Read more

The Excruciating Pain of Heartbreak

I nearly forgot the gut-wrench of loss. We call it heartbreak, but a close second to the hot ache in my chest is the writhing pain just below my solar plexus. It’s shocking how much physical pain can be caused by emotional suffering. It might be easier to endure a broken arm or a concussive … Read more

Daily Incantation for Every Woman

At then end of each of my workshops, I invite all of us to circle-up and hold hands. We spend a few moments feeling the energy in the room, which is invariably both tender and powerful. Once firmly rooted in loving connection, we repeat this incantation. I have been asked many times for a copy … Read more

To My Daughter As I Leave Her at College

Dear Peanut, To say that I am proud of you is an epic understatement. Pride is a word I used for a great dance performance on the Community Center stage when you were six, or for passing Algebra II after watching you work your butt off all semester. I was proud of the way you … Read more